On the 15 October at 7pm, I will be helping illuminate the night by lighting candles for Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day, to remember my four little ones who were lost too soon and who are very much missed and grieved for. Miscarriage is hard for so many reasons, but two of the things I found most difficult was I had nowhere to grieve and hardly anyone wanted to talk to me about it. In fact, many family and friends avoided the subject, which in many ways made the loss even harder. If you know of anyone that has had a miscarriage, it doesn’t matter how long ago it may be, if you can, give them a hug on the 15th (real or virtual). As no matter how much time has passed, they probably still miss never getting to meet or spend time with the baby they longed for.