Our mental well-being is probably something that the majority of us take for granted. Something that we don’t even think about, similar to breathing.
We are all aware when we are having a good or bad day. And we can all find something to help pick ourselves up. Whether it’s a nice bath or walk, watching a movie or getting a hug from someone who counts.
But for many people, it is not as easy as that. It can be days filled with emotional numbness, panic attacks, stress and relentless anxiety. There is no simple fix.
At these times more than ever is important to pay extra special attention to your mental and physical health. To reach out and make a connection and talk to someone, in fact anyone. To just be able to say to someone ‘I’m having a bad time’ and to be honestly listened to. It can lift the weight from your world. I mean not being given an automatic response of “ah you will be ok”, or “you’ll cope” or “things will be better tomorrow”. I mean a real two way conversation with someone who will say “ Do you want to talk about it?” OR “What can I do to help?”
Last year I experienced, mind numbing, fear filled panic attacks driven by anxiety about my daughter’s health. I went everywhere thinking she would have another seizure and end up back in hospital. Compounded by the worry of who would look after my other daughter. I tried to talk to people about it, but kept being told, “you’ll be ok”, “you’ve coped this far”, but inside I wasn’t coping. I was exhausted because I wasn’t sleeping and was constantly in ‘fight or flight’ mode. And I now felt like I had to look like I was ok. I eventually broke, because I realised I couldn’t cope. I gave myself permission to fall apart and knew I had to ask for help. My help came in the form of an EFT practitioner. She helped me put myself back together. She helped guide me through my own fears and gave me the confidence to get back on my feet.
If you are suffering from mental health issues and feel you need to talk to someone, have the courage and take the first step. You may think that people don’t care because they haven’t noticed that you are feeling low. Mental health is not like a cut, or a bruise or a broken limb. It often cannot been seen. Words can be heard and tears can be seen, so make find your voice and be visible.
The NHS has just launched its Every Mind Matters campaign. You can access some great resources for free on the link below. There is also a section on supporting others struggling with mental health.
If there is one thing you should remember, don’t be afraid to talk to someone.